The Conversation So Many Women Over 50 Avoid 

Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Lisa, a long-time user of Pleage’s HydraHer, to talk about her experience navigating intimacy, menopause, confidence, and the changes that come with getting older.

What struck me most about our conversation wasn’t fear or frustration. It was honesty. Lisa spoke openly about the reality many women quietly live with, especially later in life, when intimacy can start to feel more complicated but nobody around you seems to be talking about it.

And more than anything, she kept coming back to one idea: it’s never too late to reconnect with yourself.

Lisa:
I’m 66. I’ve been in menopause for years now. I’ve been very adamant about trying to keep myself up-to-date because there’s a lot out there a person can do.

So many women have lived a sheltered life when it comes to their sex life. Especially if you’ve been married a long time. Family takes over. Life takes over. The mortgage takes over. People start thinking this is just the way it is.

And it doesn’t have to be that way.

Samantha:
I think many women our age never had open conversations around these things growing up. A lot of women still don’t feel comfortable talking about it now.

Lisa:
I feel incredibly lucky from that point of view.

I came across a book called The Joy of Sex when I was younger. That’s where I learned about these things for the first time.

It really set the stage for my life, I think. Nobody ever told me anything was bad.

Lisa:
I think the women who missed that openness are sometimes the ones who give up when perimenopause and menopause happen.

And I know these women can refind the joy of sex. I know they can. If they have a willing partner.

Samantha:
That’s key as well, isn’t it? Having a partner who’s supportive.

I also think some women, even with a supportive partner, still struggle to have the conversation.

Lisa:
The more I know, the more options I see, the more confident I am approaching the subject.

If you hear other women talking honestly about what they’ve gone through, you start thinking maybe it’s not that hard after all.

Lisa:
When I was younger, everything was easy. My hormones were very strong right up until around 60.

Then I noticed the drive was a little less. It had to be nurtured more. It required more attention and more work on my partner’s side. Before, everything just happened easily.

Lisa:
That’s where I saw your product.

I thought, okay, maybe I need a little help. And if there’s help, take it.

When I first started using the product, it was very quick that I saw a physical response.

Not some huge dramatic thing. Just more of a response from my body again.

Lisa:
When I start to lubricate naturally, I become really open and I can really let loose.

Before that point, I might feel like, “I’m not lubricating enough.”

Samantha:
I’ve spoken to quite a few women who’ve said the same thing. Not just that it worked quickly, but that they physically felt different in themselves.

Lisa:
You really have to look at all areas of what you’re doing.

You have to look at what you’re eating. Your physical exercise. Your stress levels. Your mental health.

Exercise is one of the best things you can do because it helps your circulation and your self-esteem. Blood flow is important.

Lisa:
I take HydraHer now and I’ve suggested it to many people.

I think it’s an important thing to have in your toolkit.

And I do think there are some women who would benefit from talking to their doctor about hormone replacement therapy too. Some women need support in different areas.

Samantha:
So you see it as part of a bigger approach to taking care of yourself?

Lisa:
Sure. Look at everything.

This is central to your self-confidence when you’re in bed with someone.

Samantha:
And if women can start looking after themselves earlier, before they completely lose confidence, maybe they stop that spiral before it begins.

Lisa:
I think any woman in her 40s or 50s could benefit from being proactive.

But I would also say this to any woman. It’s never too late.

You may forget what you’re missing.

Lisa:
I talk to friends my age and some of them just say, “I don’t care anymore.”

A lot of them are older, single, divorced, or they’ve been through bad situations. So the whole thing just doesn’t seem worth it anymore.

But I’d like to think women can still attract their husband after 30 years together.

Even though everything tells us we’re expired or past our due date.

Lisa:
I think a lot of women just need some hand-holding, some confidence, some cheerleading, and some ideas from other women.

Samantha:
That’s exactly why we’re trying - to build a community where women can hear each other’s stories and realize, “Okay, that’s me too.”

Lisa:
This is the first place where I actually saw an answer.

A lot of places talk about the problems. This was the first place where somebody came out and said, “Take this, you’re going to wake up again a little bit.”

I think that’s straightforward, honest, and very compelling because it’s direct.

Samantha:
I’m really glad we’re reaching women that way.

And honestly, I love hearing these conversations because every woman reminds somebody else that there’s still hope and there are still things that can help.

If this feels familiar, I hope Lisa’s story reminds you that you’re not alone. Whether it’s opening up a conversation, taking better care of yourself, or exploring support like HydraHer, you deserve to feel comfortable, connected, and confident at this stage of life too.